I was especially grateful to ring in 2017 this year as my husband and I were surrounded by some of our great friends here in Saratoga.
As I sat by the fire one of our friends brought up New Year's Resolutions, which typically has meant for me cutting down on sugar and increasing my exercise routine. But this year I wanted to dig a little deeper.
Goal #1: Be gentle with yourself
This goal came about because one of my patients reminded me to chill the hell out. I find I hold myself to these crazy expectations that I end up struggling to meet day to day. I set the bar too high and then feel so discouraged when I can't get everything done. So I plan to set more realistic expectations to stop making myself feel like a big failure. Be kind to yourself. But not too kind where you have no goals or direction and end up back in your parents basement.
Goal #2: Start the day with intention
I love this. I'm not a morning person. I seriously think my sister contemplated spraying me with the garden hose to wake me up when we were children. I'd like to get up even just fifteen minutes earlier to have coffee, stretch and be alone to gather my thoughts each day. This would be a much healthier way to start the day rather than rushing around the house grabbing at things like there's been a bomb threat.
Goal #3: Seek out what awakens you
This one is powerful. It's so easy to get stuck in a routine and end up just going through the motions. I need refreshers constantly to shake me out of the norm and to remind me why I'm really here. I love finding things that make me feel alive. Planning a trip or a day out, finding an inspiring book or article, taking up a new hobby, tying a new class, spending quality time with family, writing a short story, helping a friend, etc. I have this magnet that says, "Life is not about finding yourself, it's about creating yourself." When we feed our soul we can then share that light with others. Until they suck the life out of you anyways. So basically every time a client yells at you at work just plan another trip to the Caribbean.
Goal #4: Express true gratitude
It's so easy to spit out the words you're supposed to say when you receive a gift or a compliment but do we really mean it? Do we really take the time to appreciate someone's efforts to make us feel good? I hope to do a better job of making sure people understand how truly grateful I am for their kindness and efforts. But in all seriousness I'm no longer grateful for chocolate. It's giving me a muffin top and a muffin bottom and I will then express my gratitude by mailing anyone who gives me it a bill for a whole new wardrobe.
Goal #5: Be silly
There always needs to be more silliness. Thank goodness for clips of animals doing stupid things. Watching dogs and cats failing at life really keeps me sane sometimes. Thank you Facebook.,